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"F" your insecurities!
by Kristin Neperud
Submitted: Friday, February 23, 2007
I have always cautioned myself and others, “Don’t be too cocky. If you are, something will come along and humbilize you real fast.” (Which the fact that “humbilize” is not a real word drives my friend Dave nuts. But I digress...) I think it is time to throw that idea out the window!
Those moments in our life where we are just feeling invincible and confident are (for most of us) not frequent enough.
Almost everyone I know gets hit with self doubt and the upsurgence of their insecurities more often than we feel unbeatable. And that is just not right.
Recently I went on a couple of dates with this great guy, then proceeded to screw it up. (Yeah, I know most of you are not surprised by the latter, but lets move on.) Things were fine, everyone was having a great time, no one was contemplating chewing their arm off or anything. But then it happened, I felt myself start to think I could like this guy.... and that is where the problem came in.... that’s where my insecurities started to come out.
What if I am not interesting enough for him? What if I’m too “lumpy” for him? Not smart enough? Not funny enough? Not pretty enough? Not cool enough? Not “whatever” enough? I was not sure what I was lacking for him, but I was sure there was going to be something.
He had done nothing wrong, it was my internal monologue that shot this one down the crapper. So I have come to the conclusion that I need to give my insecurities the finger. They are not doing me any good. And I suggest you do the same.
If someone could dismiss you because you are not “whatever” enough - let them go. They are not the right person for you. There is going to be someone around the corner that thinks you are adorable because of that little thing that scared the other one away. It’s our uniqueness and quirks that make us who we are. We should embrace them and view them as positives instead of turning them into things we are insecure about. It’s our uniqueness that make us stand out from everyone else.
Be confident in your uniqueness - hell, be cocky in your uniqueness! And when you are feeling confident, don't let anyone tear you down - ride the wave for as long as you can. Walk down the street and strut it.
Of course, in my case I will probably walk down the street and trip over my own feet, (or run into a parking meter - which I just did the other week) but I am going to laugh at myself and keep strutting (maybe with a limp, but keep strutting). Because the fact that I often trip over my own feet is part of what makes me - me. And maybe someday, some boy will notice this (hopefully think it is cute) and offer to hold my hand, you know, "just in case.
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